Some of my absolute favorite people on the internet (like Lisa-Jo Baker) say that once you get to 40, you start feeling comfortable in your skin in a way you never have before. And I’m sure they’re right. You’ve lived, mostly likely, about half of your life at that point. You’ve been married awhile, your kids are a little older, and you lose some of the insecurities that can plague your younger years.
Well if my 40s are about feeling more comfortable in my own skin, I want my 30s to be about grace. Grace that I’m growing and changing as a person. Grace for the still sleep-deprived season of life. Grace for my not-so-new but not-so-seasoned marriage. Grace to try new things and mess them up. So. Much. Grace.
This got me thinking about the 30 Things I Want to Do Before I Turn 30 post I wrote on my birthday last year when I turned 29. It’s more like a late 20s bucket list. And as I reflect back on this list and it’s to-do nature, I realize more and more, isn’t items checked off the to-do list, but ways we can grow and see growth, grace-filled growth.
So I’m redoing the list and changing it to a grace-filled manifesto for your 30s.
A Grace-Filled Manifesto for Your 30s
get to 2000 in my thankfulness journalFind ways to be thankful in my every day life, especially on hard days or in hard moments, when thankful things seem farthest away take my kids to ride the camel at the zooEnjoy more experiences with my kids, from climbing trees and building tee-pees to big trips and vacations attend a blogging conferenceRemember that the ministry God has put in front of me is sometimes a moment-to-moment ministry of the person directly in front of me. Lord, that you could count me faithful write an honest to goodness letter to someoneMake time for the people that matter most, phone calls are great go on an overnight trip with just my husbandContinue to make our marriage a priority and grow the time we intentionally spend together take my kids to the beachLearn more about what my kids are interested in and invest in those activities eat a brand new foodTake care of myself by eating regular meals visit a new stateContinue to make traveling and exploring a priority even with little people have a 30 days of cleaning monthUse my time in my home more diligently but also remember the priority is building a home not a house finish reading through the Bible againContinue to read, study, and learn find a podcast to listen toSurround myself with Godly wisdom and grace – both online and in real life record a podcastBe faithful to the season I am in and know my limits, where I can run and where I need to pull back write 3 chapters of a bookRead more. Write more. Show up. get a heart ring piercingWorry less about whether I’m young enough or cool enough to pull something off start a minimalist wardrobeWear clothes and colors I like because they are the most me and also comfy exercise, walk, or stretch 2x a week“Self Care” is not a dirty word and when I am taking care of myself, I am taking care of others better tell my kids something I am thankful for about them each daySpeak life into my children and use my words to build them up tell my husband something I am thankful for about him each daySpeak life into my husband and use his love language generously dive in to a study on the women of the BibleShare and ask others what God is teaching them work on and finish the kids baby booksBe present with my kids and work to remember the little things memorize 30 Bible versesDeuteronomize my kids and walk with them hold myself to one cup of coffee before switching to teaRemember that’s it’s grace not coffee that gets me through the day hang one load of laundry on the line each weekEnjoy things that happen at a slower pace and let my patience and capacity for them grow not get on my phone till after breakfast time with my kidsPut my phone down more and be more present do a family road trip to visit the grandparentsSpend time with family and use technology to our advantage sleep outside in the tent with the kidletsDo things that are outside of my comfort zone sew something with my new sewing machineTake time to teach my kids skills they will need when they’re older make a good loaf of sourdough breadLearn to enjoy the journey and not just the destination drink kombucha every weekRemember that bad habits latch in more quickly than good ones; cultivate the good ones give my husband a 10 second kiss every dayChoose love every day
What ways are you choosing to capture more grace? Would you share below?