I’ve missed you guys. But wouldn’t you know it, on New Year’s, we were struck by the flu. Just awful stuff as the baby didn’t sleep for more than an hour for 4 straight nights and the toddler puked. I had to sleep 16 hr nights two days in a row to feel functionable, and my sweet husband wore layers at work because of the chills. Awful stuff. But we’re on the other side now. PRAISE THE LORD. And everything has been wiped down and the laundry is all done (not folded but clean, which still counts Mom 😉 ) So I feel like I gotta get back to blogging. Get my head back in the game! And I thought I’d start with a little Song of Solomon.
I think we are all familiar with Song of Solomon, but in case you aren’t, the whole book is the intimate love story between Solomon and his bride. It’s their marital journey. And we’re all on a journey. So I think we can easily to relate to a lot of what happens, and even learn a few things by taking a look in this book.
What hit me this morning reading Song of Solomon 1* was the importance of flirtation.
I love how Song of Solomon goes through the various parts of the relationship from the wedding and beyond. It’s a journey. Just like each of our marriages. Cool if you think about it. Glorious and holy and awesome and awe-filled and encouraging really.
I know. You work all day. You have little kids. You’re kind of awkward and don’t know what to say or do. THAT’S OK! The fun of flirting is trying and remembering that the goal is to let your husband know you’re thinking about him.
There are so many ways you can do this. Notes. Spoken words. Whispered words. Whispered words with your hand on his arm. A text. A picture. An email. Hints. Invitations. And more.
I just got to thinking that just because marriage is a journey doesn’t mean that we have to STOP something we used to do all the time. Who can relate? You probably used to flirt with your husband all the time. Now that kind of “stuff” feels like just something else on your to do list. Don’t feel burdened by this! This can be so much fun to just try.
I recently attended an intimacy conference with these ladies and one of them said that she marked “TS” on her calendar to remind her to “think sex”. What a great idea! And flirting is right along those lines. NO, it does not HAVE to lead to sex, but it is a great way to affirm to your husband that you are thinking about him, his manliness, his physical attractiveness, and maybe even that you can’t wait for him to get home ;).
Today’s dare is simple. I dare you to flirt with your husband. Start today. And make it a point to do it a couple time a week. Write it on your calendar if you have to. But flirt with him. Affirm his need in this way. Respect his desire to be desired.
What about YOU? How do you flirt with YOUR husband?
*Song of Solomon 1
2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—
for your love is more delightful than wine.
3 Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes;
your name is like perfume poured out.
No wonder the young women love you!
4 Take me away with you—let us hurry!
Let the king bring me into his chambers.
We rejoice and delight in you;
we will praise your love more than wine.
How right they are to adore you!
5 Dark am I, yet lovely,
daughters of Jerusalem,
dark like the tents of Kedar,
like the tent curtains of Solomon.
6 Do not stare at me because I am dark,
because I am darkened by the sun.
My mother’s sons were angry with me
and made me take care of the vineyards;
my own vineyard I had to neglect.
7 Tell me, you whom I love,
where you graze your flock
and where you rest your sheep at midday.
Why should I be like a veiled woman
beside the flocks of your friends?
8 If you do not know, most beautiful of women,
follow the tracks of the sheep
and graze your young goats
by the tents of the shepherds.
9 I liken you, my darling, to a mare
among Pharaoh’s chariot horses.
10 Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings,
your neck with strings of jewels.
11 We will make you earrings of gold,
studded with silver.
12 While the king was at his table,
my perfume spread its fragrance.
13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh
resting between my breasts.
14 My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms
from the vineyards of En Gedi.
15 How beautiful you are, my darling!
Oh, how beautiful!
Your eyes are doves.
16 How handsome you are, my beloved!
Oh, how charming!
And our bed is verdant.
17 The beams of our house are cedars;
our rafters are firs.