I was recently talking with someone who pointed out to me a harsh reality she was facing.
In 2010, she and her husband got married. Of their friends from college and high school, they were the first ones to say “I do.” That year, including their own, they had four weddings which they were invited to. Of those four couples, all of them are in some kind of ministry. All are believers. All participated in pre-marriage counseling. All of them did everything just right.
However, the harsh reality my friend has learned is that at least two of these marriages are having very serious issues, in one case, even have talked about divorce. No one can know what’s going on in their marriages exactly except for them, but it got her thinking. When she shared it with me, my mind started spinning.
And it hasn’t stopped.
I mean, I know in my head that the divorce rate is 50% but to see it so close like that is just breathtaking. And not in a good way.
This got me thinking about my interview to join Greater Impact as a blogger. The director of operations was to call me on the phone to talk with me, no big deal, about what was on my heart. And she had some questions that surprised me. One was “What do you think is missing from The Respect Dare that young wives need their own?”
My answer is what shapes what I do here and my approach. Nothing is missing or lacking or not applicable to young couples. The reality is that it all is.
But as young wives, we have this totally different vantage point on marriage. I think we half live on the fullness of the honeymoon period and half on our own ideas about marriage, right or wrong.
So I write this. I think about my daily life with my husband. Every day, I’m getting something wrong. So I apologize. And try to back up and look at it as a learning experience (or raw material for my blog) and keep moving forward.
I want this to be a place where Titus 2 women come together and lift up the young wives. Even if you are a young wife, you might have a unique experience that could impact someone here.
I know we feel like we’re so ready after pre-marriage counseling. And all the books. And our good families. And everything else.
But it isn’t just that.
Your marriage is a battle field for the enemy. And we have to realize that he wants to destroy our marriages.
We have to have people coming together to learn and support, from our place in life.
I’m glad you’re here. It makes me excited about what God is doing through this ministry.
Dare for today:
1. Why are you here? Why do you read this? Would you share?
2. Do you have encouragement for young wives? Would you share it?
Join with me today in praying for marriages.