Hey all. I’m having a hard time thinking about how to work my childhood experiences into this stage of my life because I can’t remember much about it. So today, simply, I want to ask for some feedback.
1. What do you remember about your young childhood in terms of marriage or parenting? A lot or a little?
2. Is it positive or negative? Big or small?
3. Does that influence you as much as the events later in life? Why do you think that is?
Ok, Titus ladies, I dare you to share in the comments. Share on facebook. Check out what Nina and Debbie have to say. And if you have NO idea what we’re talking about, check out this post.
Love the community and love how we learn together!
-Leah
Kimber says
One of the marriage memories from childhood that stands out to me the most is that my parents had this tongue-in-cheek “rule” that they couldn’t get divorced unless all the bills were paid, the house was clean, and the laundry and dishes were done. If ever there was a time when any one of those things happened, one of them would be quick to remedy it. Like, “honey, the dishes are done.” The other would reply, “Oh, you know I was just thinking how thirsty I am. I better get a glass of water. That way there’s no chance we can get divorced today.” They would have this conversation almost flirtingly. And even though it was incredibly silly to see this scene time and again (or for them to even have such a “rule” in the first place) it was incredibly comforting to me that it happened in a similar way time and again. Dirtying a glass, to me, became a renewal of vows of sorts. That even if the circumstances were “allowing” them to get divorced today, they didn’t want to anyhow.
To this day I think of this when I think about commitment. It’s like my personal paraphrase definition of commitment. Commitment is being willing to dirty the glass when all the dishes are clean. To the outside world that would be a ridiculous (and incredibly unclear) definition of commitment. But to me it is significant. They are going on 34 years now. ๐