Cassie and Andy have been married for a year and a half. They met when she moved to Kentucky to begin teaching at a mission school out in the hollars. He had taught there for several years before her arrival. When she arrived, she often said that God had led her to this place and that God would lead her out and she would stay until that time. Andy, having already been there for a while, was starting to think about not teaching there anymore and going after something else.
They just moved into their first house and are making it their own. This includes Andy becoming a handyman with repair projects around the house. He has grown in confidence with his handyman skills with the more success he has doing it.
Recently, they have begun discussing their future more in depth – where they will go next and what God has them doing. And this is what she had to say about the discussions “And I have been really focused on giving him the permission to go and do whatever he wants to do”
Cassie is a strong and independent woman. She is never lacking in self-confidence. She is sure of who she is. She has a strong and beautiful faith.
I guarantee you that she is not a doormat.
She has learned to not only let her husband lead, but to encourage him in his leadership.
She has put her trust in the Lord, to lead her husband, so that her husband will know how to lead her.
Is this scary? Oh yeah! Let’s face it, as great as our husbands are, we almost never think exactly the same about spending money, where we should live or work, when we’d like to have kids, how or what we should eat or exercise, or any number of other things.
But as wives, it is so important for us to seek the Lord about any fears. To respectfully talk to our husbands about differences. To pray that God’s will would be done and that His leadership would prevail.
You are my refuge and my shield; I have put my hope in your word. Away from me, you evildoers, that I may keep the commands of my God!
As we put our hope in the Word of the Lord, we will continue to grow in how He has called us to respect our husbands. Those little fears or nagging doubts will be conquered by knowledge of what His word says. We will be able to lift up our husbands and trust that God is working on their hearts, just as He is working on ours. It will not be easy, but it will be an amazing gift, not only in our own marriages, but in how we influence those around us.
Dare you to think of an area where you are hesitant to follow your husband’s leadership and pray that God would work on your heart. This is not about changing our husbands’ hearts – it’s about changing ours.
What is a way in which you have submitted to your husband’s leadership in a big way – even if you only think it’s big for you? Would you share below?